Request for clarification by mrsmapp on Tue 1 Dec 2009 - 1:38 pm UTC:

These are excellent examples-- well done.  May I ask for one more round of
work though.  For each example, can you say more:

this person(s) displayed _________(self awareness, social intelligence or
emotional intelligence-- or a combination of these)   by (explain how these
qualities were demonstrated)...
 

I need to be explicit in my lesson so that the link is clear. I also need
to be sure that I have at least one instance of self awareness, emotional
intelligence and social intelligence to cite.  

FYI-- in case this helps, I'm providing a few paragraphs from my lesson on
each of these:
 
Self Awareness:  
"Cliff has personal intelligence, that is, being able to distinguish
one’s comfort zones versus the situations that cause your blood pressure
to rise.  Knowing what makes you happy and also knowing your hot buttons. 
It means that you have an accurate assessment of what you do well—how you
perform in different areas versus the tasks and jobs that are best left to
others. 
        How does personal intelligence or self awareness fit into the
relationship equation?  John Gottman, author of The Relationship Cure,
explains it as follows.  Knowing that our brains are wired in various and
highly individualized ways allows us to be more compassionate and tolerant
toward ourselves and others.  It helps us to build better relationships
through understanding and accepting our differences. You can either
celebrate or bemoan our differences.  Work with them or against them. 
Respect each other’s emotional needs.  But it all starts with awareness
of who we are."

Emotional Intelligence:
Salovey identified four parts to emotional intelligence:
The first part entails identifying the emotion.  Salovey describes this as
the ability to recognize emotions and express feelings—both yours and
other peoples.  When you identify your feelings and put them into words,
you get a better sense of control over them. This in turn can help you cope
with negative emotions like fear, anger or sadness.   By taking a deep
breath, stepping back to examine what’s going on with your feelings—it
can make all the difference in what follows next.  The second component of
emotional intelligence is using the emotion.  This is your ability to
channel emotions for creative use, reasoning, decision making and problem
solving.   It means you have an ability to redirect and prioritize your
thinking based on your emotions; you can capitalize on mood changes to
appreciate multiple points of view and you can use your emotional states to
facilitate problem solving and creativity.  In other words, your emotions
are used productively, to your advantage.  Salovey’s third component of
emotional intelligence involves understanding the cause of the emotion. 
This is having insight and knowledge of one’s feelings or the feelings of
others.  It’s the ability to label your emotions with words and to
understand the causes and consequences of emotions.  Annoyance and
irritation can lead to rage if the provocative stimulus is not eliminated. 
How to quell emotions before they get out of hand…  or how to let the air
out of a balloon before it bursts. 
The fourth and final component is managing your emotions using a broad
range of techniques to regulate your moods. It may start with simply being
open to your feelings—both pleasant and unpleasant—to monitor and
reflect on them—what is happening here… why do I feel this way. 
Physical exercise is thought to be the single most effective strategy for
changing a bad mood, among those under your control.  It also can help to
listen to music, engage in social activities and other pleasant
distractions, or simply to give yourself a pep talk. All of these serve to
help you manage your emotions and avoid impulsive reactions and
consequences that you may later regret.  

Social Intelligence:
Ten years after his seminal work on emotional intelligence, Daniel Goleman
followed up on his study of relationships with his book Social
Intelligence, the new science of human relationships.  Like Gottman and
Harvey, Goleman speaks of the human qualities behind harmonious
interactions… the qualities of those who are able to consistently engage
in pleasant, engaged and smooth connections with other people.  Chances
are, they possess some or all of the following strengths:
1.	Empathy—sensing and understanding another person’s thoughts,
feelings and intentions.  Being able to pick up clues from verbal and non
verbal signals such as the facial expression or tone of voice.  
2.	Attunement—listening with full receptivity.  Deep listening--wanting
to understand the other person.  Asking insightful questions to help
“paint the picture” in your mind. 
3.	Social awareness—knowing how the social world works—being savvy in
social situations, being able to read “vibes” within a group, and
helping to find solutions to social dilemma’s.  
4.	Self presentation- presenting ourselves effectively.  Having charisma
and timing, confidence, pose and savior-faire.  This is the person who has
their emotions under control and is able to modulate their impulses in a
variety of social situations. 

  


Thanks very much for the speed and quality of your work.